Reading a question online today was yet another reminder of the selfishness of adoption, A couple were going to adopt a baby that they believed would fit into their family due to seeing the mother and based on what she told them. The child is transracial so they don't want to adopt the baby now as she wont blend. From the wording of the question and additional information they had no intention of telling the child she was adopted which disgusted me. In this day and age it is so easy for family members to find an adopted relative it is also stupidity.
How this intended keeping this child in the dark was beyond me. Had they gone ahead with the adoption family and friends would have known as their minister had been involved. All it would have taken would have been an argument or an act of spite for the child to find out. Also with all the research and information available on the internet it sadly doesn't shock me that there are still adopters who still think it;s acceptable to pass an adopted child off as their own. Children aren't accessories to fit in with adopters lives they are human beings who deserve to be respected and treated equally to non adopted children.